The purpose is to determine exactly when the relationship began, whether it is sexual, whether any marital property has been transferred to the new friend, such as by gift, how much money was spent on dating this person, and whether the spouse has said anything that could be used against him or her at trial.
Even if everything is on the up-and-up, the result is a lot of unnecessary aggravation and cost.
While she's gearing up to be a new mom which is stressful enough she's also trying to keep her relationship with her fiancé alive and exciting during this crazy time.
” This question comes up quite often for soon-to-be divorcees.
And, the simple answer should always be: “Not until your divorce is final.” But, life is rarely simple.
There is no distinction between platonic contacts and ones that are romantic or sexual, although from a practical standpoint, the romantic/sexual relationships are the ones that draw scrutiny and cause complications.
The reason divorce lawyers counsel against dating while the divorce is pending, even if separated, is that it has the potential to increase both the cost and the stress of the divorce trial. Judges, however, rarely punish someone who begins dating – sexually or otherwise – once they have physically separated from their spouse.
Even so, the presence of someone new, particularly when paraded in front of the spouse and/or children, can enrage the soon-to-be ex, and also create the suspicion that the relationship began as an “affair” before the separation.
The innocent new friend can be deposed by the other side’s lawyer (that is, asked questions that are taken under oath and recorded by a stenographer or even videotaped) and subpoenaed to testify at trial.
Divorcing clients are often lonely and stressed out, and they may be longing to meet someone new, feel desirable again, and just have fun.
So, many clients decide that just one date can’t hurt.